Realizing You’re Asexual – My Story

“Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity.” –Wiki

Ever since High-School ended a mere 6 years ago, my social media feed has been polluted with ever growing baby pictures, new formed couples, and couples uniting into this special ‘next-level bond’ we call marriage. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m in no shape, way, or form against all of the romance, it just doesn’t appeal to me. People refer to their pregnancy as a gift, I view it as the most torturous thing an individual would willingly push their body to go through, but I digress. (Mad respect to all you mothers, you guys are troopers!)

With that influx of baby-booms and wedding-preps on my newsfeed, comes the awkward congratulating of those long-distance friends I’ve barely acquainted with since High-School… And along the replies you get back, here comes that dreaded, obnoxious question they always ask: So, who’s the lucky guy? When you planning on starting your own family?

SCRRREEEECCCCCCCH!! Hold the f*** up… What made YOU believe I had getting hitched and reproducing mass amounts of offspring as a life plan? And once again, I don’t mean that in a bad way, that whole route just isn’t for me. But with those sweet, naive and innocent phrases, the true question became it’s own problem; why am I not even bothered with relationships?

I looked back on my upbringing and realized, guys just never really got interested by me growing up, I was the tomboy bestfriend that wrestled with them and would punch them in the groin. ‘Cause that’s what boys do, but I’m a girl; I guess that’s where that detachment started forming. It also probably didn’t help that I was a bit overweight, and not the prettiest girl on the block. To be honest, I was actually pretty gender confused. My mom always jokingly said I’d probably turn out to be Lesbian, but that didn’t turn out to be the case.


Fast-forward a few years from those pictures to Sophomore year of High-School, 10:15 a.m in Mr. Denato’s Biology class. We open up our books to read about plant cells and certain organisms who reproduce A-sexually. The term stuck. I remember leaving class that day and from that day on, I would jokingly tell people I was Asexual: like a plant! I didn’t need anyone to complete me, I was capable of ‘reproducing’ on my own. To a certain degree I knew that’s how I identified, but just like any other kid my age, I figured it would be just a phase.People shrugged it off and never put much thought into it, and to be fair, neither did I, really.

I would go on after High-School to lose an immense amount of weight because guys were still not attracted to me, and I wanted to fit in with everyone and be in my very first relationship. I got into my first relationship when I was 19, but I received my first kiss when I was 16, and had my first intercourse near the end 17. I was a late bloomer in all senses, which lead me to believe I was simply developing at a slower pace than all my friends. Got skinny, got attractive, got a relationship, engaged in the coitus… Still wasn’t interested in pursuing anyone. So, now what?


I first passed it off as being shallow due to my new found confidence in regards to my weight-loss, and then started telling people I just wasn’t ready for a new relationship since my first and only actual relationship had messed me up pretty heavily. And as time went on, guy friends started noticing me and gaining interest, and mind you, a lot of these guys are people that were too cool and attractive to associate with me back in High-School. And yet, I was the one turning them all down. I just wasn’t on the same page as them and didn’t want to waste their time. Did I lose great people I loved down to their very core fiber? Yes. Do I regret losing these people? Of course. Would I have faked a relationship in order to still have them around? Absolutely not. The pattern became extremely prominent, and as I’m typing this, age 24, I finally come to terms with my true and actual sexuality: Asexual.

A few months back as I was browsing various webpages, I stumbled across this blog about Asexuality, and of course it peeked my interest. All I could think about was how I had related with that term back in High-School… But had never really thought more of until that time. And as I was sitting there reading over the article, realizing that this is an actual situation that a lot of people are dealing with. It’s not just some textbook definition of how plants reproduce; Asexuality is an actual sexual orientation. A connection finally breached within my brain, and I finally actually had the key to myself and everything that is me.

People may not understand my orientation or really consider it a thing, and I may get judged and be referred to as a prude and unjustly be repeatedly told that I “just haven’t found the right guy yet”; but no matter what I know who I am, and that’s all that really matters.

If you’re faced with the same situation, know that there are a lot of people out there like you, you are not alone, and no matter what… You are NORMAL, simply different. And that’s totally OKAY. There’s many resources out there for you, communities to join and people to associate with that know exactly how you feel. Don’t ever feel bad about marching to your own beat, you’re not alone. Things will make sense some day, don’t stress yourself out over what others may want out of life for you.

Realizing You’re Asexual – My Story

Thanksgiving Leftovers Puppy-Mush [100% Safe For Dogs] —

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The main thing to remember each year about Thanksgiving is its never ending leftover Hell. Sure, once the actual feast is presented, everyone is thrilled to dig into all of the succulent dishes, as feuds are created within the family over who gets which piece of the Turkey. The second round of Thanksgiving food is still pretty great, deserts are piled up and bellies are filled up. The next day, here we are feeling guilty about all of our ingested calories, and yet, there’s still enough leftovers to feed a small army. This year we suggest sparing some of these leftovers, and treating your dog to a royal delight.

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This recipe is easy-peazy and will clear some room out of your refrigerator, while filling up your doggys’ stomach with pure tastiness.


  •  1 whole softened sweet potato 
  • 1Cup of shredded, skinless Turkey meat
  • 12 Cup of leftover stuffing (use 1 toast if you use a lot of onions)
  • 2 Teaspoon of cranberry jelly
  • 1 Tablespoon of coconut oil (or butter/oil)


  • Boil or microwave your sweet potato until soft and tender.
  • Shred up your turkey meat into small, delectable pieces.
  • In a medium mixing bowl, incorporate the skinned and mushed sweet potato, the shredded turkey meat and the leftover stuffing.
  • Beat until it has become mostly a consistent and uniform ‘mush’.
    (Either microwave for 20-30 seconds, or heat on stovetop. Heating is optional.)
  • Spread the cranberry jelly over the mush, and serve as is.
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If your pup enjoyed this recipe, share with us your thoughts via the comment section. We’d love to hear your suggestions and recipe ideas! Feel free to share with us any recipe modifications, we’d love to share them for all to try!

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Homemade Poochy Pancakes —

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Just about anyone who’s ever had a bite of pancakes can automatically say that they absolutely LOVE them! From their intoxicating buttery fragrance, down to their fluffy, spongy and soft interiors. And as you’re standing next to your stove, mixing your batter, you can’t help but notice from the corner of your eye that your 4-legged best friend is sitting right by, just waiting for a drop to spill. This go round, why not make your furry-friend its very own batch of Poochy Pupcakes? What’s better than sharing a breakfast with an old, dear friend?

This is also a great recipe to do with the kids on a lazy-weekend. Why not try it out?


  •  1 Egg 
  • 3/4 – 1 Cup of milk (Depending on the desired consistency)
  • 12 Teaspoon of Coconut oil (Butter/oil will do)
  • 12Cup of whole-wheat flour
  • 14 Cup of all-purpose white flour
  • 1 Teaspoon of salt
  • 1-2 Drop of Vanilla flavoring (or 1 Teaspoon of cinnamon)
  •  1 Tablespoon of honey 
  • 1/8 Cup of unflavored yogurt 
  • 1-2 Sliced banana or other fruit (NO GRAPES/RAISINS OR AVOCADO)


  • Preheat a medium to large non-stick skillet on low
  • In a medium bowl, whisk together milk, eggs, honey and oil. Gently whisk in the whole wheat and all-purpose flours, vanilla or cinnamon and salt.
  • Add milk as needed, the suggested consistency should be a bit runnier than molasses.
  • Whisk thoroughly until all lumps of flours have dissolved.
  • Add butter, oil or non-stick spray to the pan
  • Drop a 4″ circle of batter onto your pan and spread out the batter to fill 1/2 to 3/4 of the pan.
  • Wait to flip the pancake until small bubbles have formed.

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  • Check beneath the pancake for readiness prior to taking out of pan.
  • Once ready, let cool for a few minute, top with yogurt, sliced bananas and serve.
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Let us know how much your pooch enjoyed his Poochy Pupcakes! We love hearing your feedback! Share within the comment section your ideas or your take on the recipe, we’d love to implement it as an alternative version of this recipe for everyone to see!

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Homemade Pumpkin and ‘Spice’ Dog Treat Recipe —

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The countdown to Fall has finally ended! The famous Pumpkin Spice Frappucino makes its way back onto our Instagram feeds, as #Basicwhitegirl becomes once again the headlining tag we see. We fluff up and hybernate in order to Pin, Tweet, Share and Reblog countless comforting recipes, but it seems like all these recipes never actually hit our stoves. I invite you to try this fun and easy recipe for a doggy version of Pumpkin and spice cookies! These make for an excellent present for any of your friends with pooches! If you’re feeling extra generous this season, why not share a batch or two of these treats with the pups at any of your local No-Kill shelters?


  •  2 Eggs 
  • 12  Cup of pumpkin (canned preferably)
  • 12 Cup of low-sodium chicken broth
  • Teaspoon of Olive oil
  • 12 Teaspoon of salt
  • 2 Tablespoon of powdered milk 
  • 3 Cups of wheat flour
  • Some water on hand


  1. Preheat oven to 350° Fahrenheit.
  2. Blend eggs and pumpkin together; add the remaining ingredient incorporating the flour last.
  3. Add water as needed to work the dough, knead thoroughly.
  4. The dough should be slightly dry, the batch is not failed if crumbs remain.
  5. Knead thoroughly once again, try to work out all lumps.
  6. Roll to about 1/2-inch thick.
  7. Cut using fun-shaped cookie cutters.
  8. Place 1″ apart on ungreased cookie sheet or parchment paper.
  9. Bake for 15 minutes on one side, flip over, bake for another 15 minutes.
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If you enjoyed this recipe, share with us your thoughts via the comment section. We’d love to hear your suggestions and recipe ideas! Your recipe could get published!

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Pit Bulls Rescue A South Carolina Family From Flood —

Many cities surrounding the region of South Carolina were recently hit with a wave of heavy rainfall and flash floods. Thousands have been forced to evacuate their homes and their belongings to retreat to higher grounds, and ultimately, safety.

Tragically enough, this warning did not reach many families in time and these very same families were left to their own means to stay afloat. This very nightmare happened to the family of Prisila Hutron and her fiancé William Neff. Luckily for them, their Pit Bulls started barking and acting out prior to the flood actually getting to them, which gave them just enough time to grab the bare essentials and get out of there!

Hercules (top), Bella (middle), Tug (bottom). Photo courtesy of Pit Bulls and Itty Pitties via Facebook

Prisila shared to the Facebook group Pit Bulls and Itty Pitties her story regarding the unfolds of these events;

“I’ve never been more thankful of having these babies in our lives.
We live in Columbia, SC, and Saturday night, around 3 am, they started barking, to the point we thought someone was trying to break in.
When my fiancé looked thru the window, our front yard was under water.
This gave us a chance to pick a few things up, and when we saw the water coming in the house, we grabbed a back pack, with whatever we could grab, (including 2 big ziplock bags with their food of course) and we got out.
My father in law helped us. I got baby Hercules, he grabbed Tug, and my fiancé grabbed Bella…they are our angels, even though the water inside was over a foot and we lost a lot (including their beds) they gave us a chance to get up and get out. That’s the true nature of a Pit. I know it’s a loooong story, but maybe you could give a shout out to these amazing little angels.”

Puppy Hercules (left), and Bella (right). Photo courtsey of William’s Facebook pictures

Her fiancé, William Neff, chimed in on the post itself within the comments section to add a follow up to assure everyone that they had safely gotten away from the flood and that their house was not nearly as damaged as they’d originally envisioned.
This is what he had to say;

“Hey guys, we are safe and dry. The puppies are well fed and happy. Our house actually fared pretty well and we were able to get our vehicles out of the way before things got worse. We have power and water and the house is drying out nicely. Thanks to these awesome pups we had enough time to get the important things to higher parts of the house and get them and us out safely. Thanks for the support and well wishes, they are greatly appreciated and we are very touched. There are a lot of people close by who aren’t as lucky as we were and we feel for them. Keep them in your thoughts and prayers and give your loved ones and your Pitties an extra hug today.
Sincerely, “The fiancé”. “

William “the fiancé” Neff (left), Prisila Huitron (right). photo courtesy of William’s Facebook.

We’re glad to hear a good ending to an even that could’ve potentially been extremely disastrous and dangerous. Thanks to these Pit Bull dogs, the family was safe and able to evacuate! Now that’s something to wag our tails about!

Pit Bulls Rescue A South Carolina Family From Flood —

Pit Bulls: Find Out The True Facts About Them

Believe it or not, Pitbulls have been considered a “nanny” breed of dog dating all the way back as early as the 16th Century. Yes, you read that right, Pitbulls were already around circa 1550! So how could this “nanny” breed be passed on for so many Centuries if they are considered to be so dangerous, vicious and unpredictable?

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Understandably, they are a strong and dominant breed that is often affiliated with gangsters and criminals. Because of their muscular build and bully-like look, a lot of men seek out these dogs to portray themselves as more dominant and stand out from the crowd, or even seem more aggressive and Alpha male-like. Often time, they will raise the dogs to attack intruders, regardless of who or what it is. They will train the dogs to be vicious in order to protect themselves from any threat that may arise. They might also raise and breed them to fight, and follow to religiously bet on these very same dog-fights as game. But this is not what these dogs were originally bred for. Before all of their media shamming, Pitbulls were considered to be loyal and smart companions. To this day, regardless of their negative media facade, they truly remain mans-best friend. Social Behavior Tests and Studies have been led to test the levels of aggressiveness on some of the most beloved breeds of dogs.

Here are some studies in regards to the aggressiveness led by different research groups:

Oddly enough, none of these tests were conclusive due to the variant amounts of controlled subjects, and none of the breeds were observed to react the same way as recorded on other relating studies. All of this to lead to the final conclusion that the breed itself does not shape the level of aggression in each specific dog,but more soever the way each individual dog gets brought up and raised will shape its behavior and how it reacts to its surroundings in the future. Here are some facts regarding the myths on Pitbulls.

Pitbulls have been getting a bad reputation for only a short time in their long line of existence, and truthfully, it’s time for light to be shun on their qualities versus what the media likes to showcase on their behalf. They have proven time after time their intelligence and their amazing sense of empathy. Not only are they gentle and nurturing by nature, they are incredibly smart and able to outwit many other dog breeds. They can be trained to accomplish just about literally anything!

Ever since surfacing on the face of the media during Michael Vicks’ arrest, they have been getting the cold shoulder from the Nation all together. During the World War II Era, society feared Dobermans & Rottweilers because of their affiliation with the Nazis as their guard-dogs, but that stigma has long ended about them, and they have once again retrieved their spot in the heart of the Nation. So now, why has all this hatred shifted over to yet another innocent breed? Why are breeds in their entirety constantly being blamed for individual, isolated cases? Let’s put it within this perspective; It’s as if we were to claim all of human kind to be psychotic serial killers since more than 14,827 cases of murders were recorded for the year 2012. I believe we can, for the most part, claim that we are normal and loving human beings. So why associate isolated cases of aggressive dog behavior to the breed as a whole? More than enough times there have been videos that have sprouted all over the Internet showing abused Pitbulls who have made a striking recovery. Even after years of neglects and abusive isolation.

Here is a case of a Pitbull that was deemed as aggressive, believed to not be adoptable. Clearly, as we can see in the video, the dog is not aggressive at all, he’s afraid, lonely and has never felt the loving touch of another being.

No dog is born as a bad dog. Each individual dog reflects the behavior of the person holding the leash. Certain breeds of dogs, Pitbull included, have higher levels of energy which means they need adequate interaction and high level of activities to tire them out. If they don’t waste enough energy throughout the day, they will get bored and get up to mischief. As stated in the famous idiom; “An idle mind is the Devils’ playground.” If this rule applies to human, than it must certainly be expected to apply to our canine friends as well, no? Dog owners should educate their-selves thoroughly on the specific breed prior to adopting and bringing home a dog. Each individual breed is unique and requires different levels of interaction, activity and breed-related care. This is where most new Pitbull owner make their first critical error; they adopt on a whim when the opportunity is presented and do not take into consideration the size the dog will be when it reaches its full adult form, or how much space it actually needs in order to thrive and be comfortable. Although dogs are highly versatile and can easily adapt to any setting or changes, they still require a bare minimum of space.

Myths such as Pitbulls having locking jaws have surfaced, and it’s with great anticipation and thrill that I assure you it’s 100% false! Yes, they do have a strong jaw, but German Shepherds have stronger jaws, longer and sharper teeth  and a harder head-yank in comparison with Pitbulls. So why are German Shepherds leading K-9 Units in all of the branches of the Forces? Simple, because society has grown to understand their behavior, and they are no longer considered a threat. I’d like to highlight some Pitbulls who had shown heroic behavior, just like their fellow canine friends in the Forces.

Meet Buddy, a Pitbull who saved his owner and the neighboring houses from what could have been a disastrous fire. He alerted his owner of the fire, the owner that had just adopted Buddy less than 2 months ago. His new owner was in turn capable of calling the Fire Services in order to prevent further damage to the building catching up in flames. The fire took 2 hours to contain, but no injuries rose in liaison with the random apartment inferno.

Here again in this heroic case involving a Pitbull, this young Pitbull of 3 months named Hunter, whom was adopted 2 weeks prior to the incident happening; successfully alerted his adoptive family in the middle of the night of a gas leakage. His family had left the burners on the stove lit from the earlier dinner, 6 hours prior!  Hunter went to their bedroom and started whining until he woke one of them up. His owner figured he needed to potty and took him outside, but his whining never stopped. He turned in circles and went back inside, leading his owner to the kitchen. He then followed to go next to the stove and sit. His owner then understood to check the burners and realized of the gas leakage. If Hunter had not woken them up, a fatal accident could’ve happened.

Or once again in this news article about Major the Pitbull who dialed 911 while his owner had a seizure. Granted he’s a service dog and has been trained to do so, it just shows that dogs can be bred for good instead of only bred for negative and wasteful purposes.

In conclusion, Pittbulls aren’t the frightening monsters the media are making them out to look like. Underneath those sweet almond shaped eyes, and those wide smiling mouths; hides a faithful soul waiting to touch yet another lives. Pitbulls are a great breed with far too many unfair prejudices at their guise. If people would take the time to give them a chance, they’d realize how wrong they actually were all along.

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Pit Bulls: Find Out The True Facts About Them

How To Stay On Track With Your Diet This Fall

Autumn has finally bestowed upon us all of its seasonal wonders. The cool and gloomy weather has finally reached our troposphere, as the leaves have begun to change colors and gleam in beautiful hues of warm oranges and delightful reds. But beneath all of Autumns’ magical perks comes the unholy tradition of festive binge eating. From cramming Turkey legs down our pie-holes, to scarfing down dressing, sides and mouth-watering casseroles, making a stretch to every pastry and pies imaginable, and topping it all off with a sizable side of seconds; Let’s face it, the calories keep adding on.

How many time has the resolution to lose weight, yet again this year, has been blown off within a weeks’ notice? Let’s not even try to recall that shattered promise. Once the Holicraze is over, and the calories have softly made their ways around the glutes, it’s already time again to unpack our swimsuits and begin to peel off layers to welcome back Springtime. This year, will you be bikini ready? These 20 tricks below will keep your goal within arms-reach, no more hiding behind a towel this Summer!


1. Don’t get scammed into buying quick weight-loss pills, Sure, they will speed up your metabolism, but it won’t tone your muscles or keep you at a healthy weight. Caffeine pills and such should only be used in extreme cases, and if your doctor or physician has consulted these needs with you. Like anything, they are addictive and can affect your mood if taken too often.

This video is a prime example of how these pill-corporations utilize light-play to sell their products, promising extreme results.

2. Stick to grocery shopping on the outskirts of the store. This is where the fresh produce, dairy section and fresh meat is. Try to avoid the inner shelves where all the canned goods and sugary foods are stored.

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3. Learn to prepare and cook easy, healthy meals and try to pack your own lunch for work. Avoid fast-food and restaurants as much as possible. You can crunch down on a good amount of money, as well as calories this way! You can also use this new cooking-knowledge to impress friends and family at cookouts and pic-nics!

Here are some sites with healthy and delicious recipes!

4. When joining friends and family for dinner out at restaurants, do try to checkout the ‘Weight Watchers’ menu. Even if you’re not on a strict diet, the portion they serve you is just right, and still packs a lot of flavors. It will also leave you feeling less heavy and grogy.

Applebees is known for their rich-items, but their WWs menu is a great alternative as well!

5. Drink a full glass of water prior to a meal to help with filling you up and digesting your food better.

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6. It takes 20 minutes for your stomach to transmit the message to your brain that you are full. Slow down your eating pace, you will eat less and still feel just as full.

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7. Chewing your food down to a pulp is also an easy way to make sure you get the most out of your meals. Your stomach will be able to digest it faster, and you’ll feel full faster since it takes longer to chew correctly.

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8. Place your fork down in between each bite to help you adapt to chewing your food correctly, as well as buy you time to fill you up adequately. Pacing yourself will be worth it in the long-rung.

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9. Keeping your calorie count at about 1,400 a day will ensure you from putting on weight. A healthy woman should eat up to 2,000, but that doesn’t mean you necessarily have to consume that many calories.

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10. Women should drink 2 liters, or half a gallon of water per day to stay hydrated. Stick to this rule. Drink 8 glasses of 8 ounce of water per day. Not only is it good for your health and body, but it’s good for your hair and skin.

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11. Forget paying hundreds of dollars for a gym membership and get yourself a comfortable yoga mat instead. Do simple at home work outs to work your cardio, and go for long walks outdoors. Not only do you get fresh oxygen, but you also discover the World around you this way. It’s been proven that people who participate in outdoor activities tend to age slower and have reduced chances of having Depression.

Here are some sites that will teach you how to work out from home, starting right now!

12. Replace your daily sugar by honey. The body is able to break it down faster and better, and honey is good for your health. Use honey on top of cereals, or even in coffee. You can sweeten just about everything with it!

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13. Learn the habit of reading the ingredients and calorie contents on the labels of all your foods. It will seem like a chore at first, but the more you do it, the better you get at spotting what your diet actually need, and which items you should steer away from.

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14. Gluten-free is a myth; you will not get fat due to Gluten. Unless you have Celiac Disease, Gluten is OKAY. Don’t hop on the band-wagon and miss out on Gluten.

Here is an article from Medical News Today confirming the Gluten debate.

15. Avoid starchy foods by all means. Potato based foods and pastas are filled with calories that are hard to break down. Replace them with lighter options, or whole wheat.

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16. Keep your sodium levels low. Sodium bloats you, and too much salt is unhealthy for you. If you want to keep a trimmed and tight figure, less salt will make you appear less puffy.

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17. To detox your body the quick and easy way, mix the juice from 2 lemons into a gallon of water, and add 2 Tablespoon of Cayenne pepper. It’ll evacuate all of the toxins. Be sure to do this on a week-end at home, alone. (You will go to the potty a lot!)

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18. Exfoliate your skin, and hydrate it. It’s tedious and may get a bit annoying, but at the bare minimum do get a facial moisturizer and lotion to keep your skin hydrated. Coconut oil is a cheap skincare product you can get just about anywhere. It has 100+ different uses. From conditionner to dark under-eye bag concealer.

Click the picture to find all the uses of Coconut Oil!

19. Clean your makeup brushes once a month to get rid of any bacterial residue from the excess oil on your skin. It will help prevent blackheads and keep your skin looking beautiful and fresh.

Click the picture to find out how to clean your very own brushes!

20. Drink no carbonated drinks, whatsoever. Try to avoid sugary drinks, and fruit juices made from concentrate. Try sticking mostly to water, but still eat plenty of fruit throughout the day. Fruits are full of vitamins and good sugars.

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How To Stay On Track With Your Diet This Fall